Why when I tell you about Boy child’s negative attitude to the high school he will be going to next year and his issues about it, your comment is suck it up princess. Yet when you are talking about your friend and her Aspie child his issues are put down to ‘Aspie Anxiety’?
Boy child has ‘Aspie Anxiety’ too. Maybe it’s expressed differently to your other friends child (I’ve never met him so I don’t know) but it’s still anxiety.
Dear Gutless E.,
Why can’t you ask your friend about this? Why are you stewing on this conversation? Why can’t you say hey I was just venting about Boy Child because he is doing my head in? Why can’t you ask how is that other child different to Boy Child and why his issues are anxiety and Boy Child’s aren’t?
I can answer some of this. Because my friends son is possibly the only child Boy will have in his year at this High school that he will know. Because my friend has been through at lot with me, the diagnosis, my mum dying and the stalker we ended up with after that, etc. At this point I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt but I’m struggling with how my child is a princess and someone else’s child is not.
But it’s bugging me. How do I approach my friend?
I really just want to ask. Hey, why are Boy Child’s issues not worthy of being Aspie Anxiety when your other friends child's issues are? Maybe that’s how to do it? Or maybe not? Should I just leave it alone? I feel like I have left a lot of issues alone recently and I actually think this friend probably wasn't thinking. But it still hurts. What would you do / say?
Note: this is a different family to the one here. This family is actually understanding most of the time.